Right Place + Right Time = Pure Luck. Notsomuch!
Multi-Tasking is a Myth
Here's what the Inc. article had to say about the topic:
"Stop multi-tasking. No, seriously—stop. Switching from task to task quickly does not work. In fact, changing tasks more than 10 times in a day makes you dumber than being stoned. When you’re stoned, your IQ drops by five points. When you multitask, it drops by an average of 10 points, 15 for men, five for women (yes, men are three times as bad at multitasking than women)."
So now I know that trying to multi-task is actually making me stupid. Great. Surprising? Not so much. I typically feel dumber when I'm trying to do too many things at the same time. This is when important details fall through the cracks and mistakes are made. We've all been there. We reply to all and make a fool out of ourselves. We misspell "assess" in a report, and now it says "asses." It's never a good scene.
I am always annoyed when I see job descriptions that list multi-tasking as a skill they'd like a new employee to have. Yes, it is possible to do more than one thing at a time. As a mother, I absolutely know that at times my role calls for me to do several things at the same time. I'm cooking dinner, while setting the table, calling my husband to remind him to pick up milk on his way home, and supervising a brother and sister who have waged war against each other.
It is physically possible to multi-task. I can do more than one thing; I just can't do more than one thing WELL, and I often can't finish multiple things at the same time.
Essentially, people who think they're multi-tasking are good at starting things, but not always good at finishing them. Someone once told me that saying that you're multi-tasking is a "polite way of telling someone you haven’t heard a word they said." I find that to be true. Have you ever tried to multi-task during a meeting at work? When the meeting ends, you realize you have no idea what was discussed (and you pray that someone else paid attention and took notes).
Henry Ford had a great perspective on multi-tasking. He didn't find it to be a strength we should seek, but rather a weakness we should know exists. He once said, "A weakness of all human beings is trying to do too many things at once."
What do you think? Have you bought into the multi-tasking myth? What proactive steps can you take to get out of the multi-tasking cycle?
Source:
7 Things Highly Productive People Do by By Ilya Pozin, Inc. Magazine
Article Link: http://www.inc.com/ilya-pozin/7-things-highly-productive-people-do.html
One Player Can Be a Game Changer!
I “Got Motivated…” Now what?
Developing Better Habits
Get Motivated Highlights
- "Information without implementation is useless." What information have I gained this year that I haven't put into practice?
- "If you're happy, tell your face." Does my face reflect the happiness I feel? Do I look approachable?
- "Growth is uncomfortable." Do I recognize the growth opportunities that are in front of me? Am I willing to go outside of my comfort zone to become a better version of myself?
- "Before you speed up, you need to slow down." When can I find time to slow down to reflect on my goals and how I am going to grow in the year to come?
- "Hope without gratitude is hopelessness." Am I combining my gratitude with genuine hope for my future?
- "Give more than you have. Leave more than you take." How am I giving back to my community? Am I actively focused on leaving a legacy?
- "Work is a privilege." Even when my schedule is crazy, do I recognize what a privilege it is to work doing something I love?
- "A true leader knows that there is no unimportant person in an organization." Do I value each and every person I encounter? What can I do to make someone feel important today?
- "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." How open am I to learning? Will I be able to see the teacher when the time comes?
- "Leaders don't fear change. They embrace it." Am I ready to embrace the changes that will come in 2012?
From Good to Grate(ful) - Blog 3 of 3
Welcome to a 3-Part Series called "An Attitude of Gratitude." Last year the SOS Leadershippartners began a tradition of blogging about gratitude and what matters most during the week of Thanksgiving. To read last year's post by Amber Fogarty, click here. To read last year's post by Bill Moyer, click here. To read last year's post by Billy Moyer, click here. Today SOS Leadership co-founder Bill Moyer blogs about taking the journey from good to grate(ful).
Several years ago Jim Collins wrote a must-read for professionals called Good to Great. Collins and his research team identified a set of elite companies that made the leap to great results and sustained those results for at least fifteen years. My favorite quote from this important business book reads, “When [what you are deeply passionate about, what you can be best in the world at and what drives your economic engine] come together, not only does your work move toward greatness, but so does your life. For, in the end, it is impossible to have a great life unless it is a meaningful life.”
As I reflect on this year and my life as a whole, I am reminded that the goal of our life’s journey is to go from good to great. In my book, Seeds of Success, we call this the journey from success to significance. So how do we get from good to great? Our focus should be on being grateful.When we’re focused on leading a life of significance, gratitude naturally flows from us.
Too often we focus on what we don’t have, rather than being thankful for what we do have. This year has been difficult for many. Perhaps it’s been rough for you. As we encounter valleys in our lives, it isn’t always easy to remember all that we have to be grateful for.
As I’ve worked with many people this year who have struggled through some difficult times, I’m especially grateful for the lessons I’ve learned from them. It amazes me how thankful they are, in the midst of enormous obstacles, for the opportunity to reprioritize what’s most important. They reminded me that life isn’t all about the material things that we think we just can’t do without. Life is about recognizing the greatness of the little things that we really can’t live without.
Here are a few of the things I’m most grateful for this year:
- In a year when most businesses have struggled, ours has experienced tremendous growth.
- My work as a coach is also my ministry.
- Our family business has helped to change the lives of many families.
- I’ve read more books to my grandchildren than I’ve read for myself.
- I’ve been blessed to welcome a new daughter-in-law into our home and to be at my wife’s side as we said goodbye to her father as God welcomed him home.
I have learned that good is not good enough; we should strive to be great. As we continue on our journey from good to great, we must seek to expand the journey from great to grateful.
Thanksgiving Focus on What Matters Most - Blog 2 of 3
An Attitude of Gratitude - Blog 1 of 3
Welcome to a 3-Part Series called "An Attitude of Gratitude." Last year the SOS Leadership partners began a tradition of blogging about gratitude and what matters most during the week of Thanksgiving. To read last year's post by Amber Fogarty, click here. To read last year's post by Bill Moyer, click here. To read last year's post by Billy Moyer, click here. And without further ado, let us begin this year's Thanksgiving blog series!
"I am grateful for sight and sound and breath. If ever in my life there is a pouring out of blessings beyond that, then I will be grateful for the miracle of abundance."
- The Traveler's Gift: Seven Decisions that Determine Personal Success by Andy Andrews
At this moment, many people have far more than they need. You may be one of them. If you have a roof over your head, food on your table, a car to get you where you need and want to go, and some money in the bank, you are most likely able to meet all of your basic needs. You live in abundance.
I fall into this category. Yet, in the midst of abundance, I sometimes find myself wanting more. I dream of being debt-free, of making certain home improvements, of owning particular things. My husband and I talk about things we'd like to get for our kids that we didn't have when we were growing up.
I feel torn about this on a daily basis. We live in abundance. Sure, we don't have as much as other people we know, but we have more than enough.
This Thanksgiving I am challenging myself to reflect on the miracle of abundance in my life. I want to remember each and every person who doesn't have enough. I want to reach out to them, not just in thought, but in deed.
The poor are often faceless to us. We don't necessarily see them. We don't hear their stories. We don't know their pain. We often focus so much on our own stuff, whatever it is, that we forget about those who struggle on a daily basis. This Thanksgiving join me in reflecting on abundance. Join me in making a commitment to do something, anything, for those in your community who are experiencing the pain and shame of poverty.
There are many ways you can make a difference. You can give of your time by volunteering; you can make a financial gift to an organization that is near and dear to your heart. You can organize a food drive, a clothing drive, or a toiletry drive for a local homeless shelter or food pantry. If you have kids, you can make any of the above a fun family project. Or you can host a drive with a group of friends, a church ministry you're involved with, or a sports team. We all can do something. EVERY act of kindness counts.
"No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another...A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves."
Mother Teresa once said, “It's not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” Let us love deeply and join our voices together in giving thanks for what matters most, not just during this week of Thanksgiving, but always.
Being a leader takes courage
Countdown to a New Year - 47 Days to Go
Before you know it, you'll be ringing in 2012. In fact, the new year is just 47 days away. That means you have 47 days to plan, 47 days to determine what you will do to make 2012 your best year ever. Get Back on Track - Protecting Goals

- Sonya Apodeca, November 2011 Protecting Goals: The Science of Personal Achievement Graduate
Having It All is an Attitude

Life is short, sometimes so short that we are overwhelmed by the reality of how little time we have. Instinctively, we know that we need to make every day count. We hear lots of talk about living life to the fullest, having no regrets, and remembering that tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Yet, do we really take these words to heart in the way we live our lives on a daily basis?
I wish I could say the answer is yes for me, that I get it right every day. But I don’t. I struggle every day to “keep the main thing the main thing,” to remember our organizational mantra (and my personal mission) of focusing on “what matters most.”
These words ring true: “The secret to having it all is knowing you already do.” Having it all is an attitude. It’s about wanting what you have, about giving thanks every day for the people in your life and the many abundant blessings that are right in front of you.
Today I know that I have it all. Do you?
The Perfect Balance Myth
We hear a lot of people talking about balance – balancing work and life, balancing family responsibilities and volunteer commitments, balancing a healthy lifestyle and spiritual time, balancing all the things we want to do with our time and even the things we don’t, like cleaning, car maintenance, laundry, and the long list of to-do’s that often overwhelm us.
I don’t know about you, but for a long time I thought it was possible to do it all. A wise coach once told me, “You can have everything you want in life, just not all at the same time.” I am trying to take that message to heart and not beat myself up when I can’t do it all, when I can’t be all things to all people, and when I have to say no.
I am starting to understand (slowly but surely) that perfect balance is a myth. It not about giving equal time to each area of my life. It’s about understanding my priorities and aligning how I spend my time with those priorities. Further, it’s about having people in my life who hold me accountable when the way I’m spending my time isn’t a reflection of what matters most to me.
These are hard lessons to learn. I talk to coaching clients often about the difference between knowing and doing. Even though I KNOW that perfect balance is a myth, for some reason I keep chasing it, thinking that maybe somehow I’m superhuman enough to achieve it.
Here’s to letting go of unrealistic expectations of ourselves. Here’s to releasing ourselves from guilt when we can’t do it all. Here’s to taking it one day a time and doing the best that we can each day to prioritize what matters most. Here’s to becoming the best version of ourselves!
The Highlights from the Creating a Positive Organizational Culture Event
- Focus on your organization's values and never lose sight of the organization's mission. Act in a manner that's consistent with the values, mission, and vision, and talk about it.
- Assure that your mission and vision are aligned with your organization's mission and vision.
- At times you must connect the dots for people. Help others to see how your actions align with the organization's mission and vision. Celebrate each success.
- Find partners who can help you to get a seat at the table. Never underestimate the value of relationships.
- "The only power you don't have is the power you give away." Empower yourself. If you don't feel invited to the table, invite yourself.
- You change an organization one project at a time.
- Culture eats strategy for breakfast.
- If you can't change the culture of your organization, change the culture of your department. If you can't change the culture of your department, change the culture of those around you.
- As an HR professional, challenge yourself to ask good questions, be a good listener, and always provide value.
- Everyone within the organization is responsible for shaping the culture. HR professionals have many touchpoints and must recognize the influence they can have on the culture.
- A culture definition shared by a panelist: "Whatever it takes to survive."
- To have an impact on culture, HR professionals need relationships throughout the org. They must be viewed as business partners. Connect with decision makers.
- Come to work everyday believing that what you do matters.
- HR professionals must have the courage to be the voice when the organization's leaders are making decisions that don't align with the type of culture they say they want to create.
- Hire people who align with the culture your organization is striving to create, which isn't necessarily the culture that currently exists.
- Key metrics HR pros can use when "taking the organization's culture temperature" include: employee retention, revenue, and employee engagement. Exit interviews can also provide important insights.
- Transparency is key for HR pros when issuing surveys to assess culture. Are you sharing & taking action on the results?
- Leverage management. Be a leader. People leave managers, not companies.
- Each individual manager within your organization establishes a climate. What types of climates are being created by the managers within your organization?
- If you're going to change a culture, you have to make sure the leadership is on board.
- As a leader, engage to build trust and rapport. Make it fun!
- In a positive culture, the voice of the customer is heard everywhere.
- Often we jump to solutions without thinking about the strategic picture. In order to be viewed as true business partners, HR professionals need to always think strategically and not simply be "solutioneers."
- Most leaders get culture. They just don't know how to impact it.
- To turn around a toxic culture, start with yourself.
From the Closing Keynote by Bill Moyer of SOS Leadership Institute:
- Are you in business? Or in busy-ness?
- Are you so busy doing everything that you don't have to time to do what matters most?
- A good culture looks like personal responsibility. Personal responsibility starts at the top.
- All organizations are perfectly designed for the results they are getting.
- There's nothing soft about soft skills. What's soft about communication?
- To lead your organization toward a culture of growth, implement this mindset: If you don't grow, you go.
- The enemy of growing is knowing. Don't let what you think you know stand in the way of what you can learn and how you can grow.
- All organizations are made up of two things: systems and people. You manage systems. You lead people.
- What is a stagnant culture? "Don't know they don't know. Know but won't grow. All blow and no go."
- What is a development culture? "Values driven. Ethical leadership. Development of all people at all levels."
- Is your organization focused on what matters most? Focused on people or the bottom line?
- You can be a difference maker. Are you making the difference you want (or need) to make?
It's all about you (yes, REALLY!)
Jordana Jaffe created Quarter Life Clarity to empower and help women in their 20's and 30's clarify their goals, identify their passions, and live their best and most authentic lives. Having graduated from college with an English degree and absolutely no direction beyond that, to being the founder of two successful businesses featured on NBC, in Women's Health, People StyleWatch and the New York Daily News, within only a few years, Jordana realized that success is YOURS for the taking, regardless of age or background. She believes in educating young women on the possibility of playing BIG and living full out, and has since committed herself to helping young women create the quarter lives of their dreams, whether that's figuring out your ideal career, or finding the perfect partner.
Facebook Allows You to Wallow
We all have bad days. No one’s life is 100% perfect all the time. Before social networks existed, what did you do when you were having a tough day? You probably called a friend or family member and talked it out, maybe whined a bit, and that was usually that, right?

Now we have Facebook, Twitter, and a host of other ways to be connected 24/7 with a ton of people – friends, acquaintances, people in our professional networks, and those random folks we knew way back when and haven’t thought about in years.
So now if you have a crappy day, you can instantly share the full details of why your day sucked (or why your entire life now sucks) with hundreds of unsuspecting “friends” and “followers.” Awesome, right? WRONG! Here’s why (prepare for a soapbox moment…):
Your post will allow you to wallow in negativity for way longer than necessary.
Chances are your mood will turn around, unless you are a perpetual “Debbie Downer” whose glass is always half empty. When your mood improves, which may be an hour later (or even a day or two later if whatever had you down was a pretty big deal), you’ll still have people replying to your post, asking if you’re okay, offering to help, and reminding you of the crappiness that occurred. That’s when you’re susceptible to wallowing. Every single response, every friend who genuinely wants to help, will remind you of what was (or still is) wrong.
Life is too short to focus on what’s wrong. Your time and energy can be much better spent choosing to focus on all the things that are right in your life. Trust me, there are many.
So the next time you feel the need to spew your negative energy to the masses, remind yourself that you don’t want to wallow in negativity. Post something uplifting instead. Who knows? Your words may be just what one of your friends needs to read at that very moment to turn their day around.
“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity.
The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
~ Winston Churchill
Creating a Positive Organizational Culture Event - October 11th
on Tuesday, October 11, 2011 from 5:30-8:00 pm
on the beautiful campus of Concordia University in Austin
This exciting event will tackle the highly debated topic of how to create a positive organizational culture. What does it take to engage employees and build morale? How do you turn around a toxic culture? What role does your leadership team play in creating a dynamic, employee-focused culture? Featuring two dynamic keynotes and a panel discussion, this is an evening of learning, information sharing, and networking that you don’t want to miss.
Event Agenda:
5:30-6:00 pm Networking Reception
6:00-6:30 pm Opening Keynote by Dr. Don Christian, Dean of the Concordia University College of Business
6:30-7:30 pm Panel Discussion facilitated by Nathan Green, President of campus2careers
Panelists include:
- Angela Loeb, Owner at InSync Resources
- Brett Rodgers, HR Manager, Anue Systems
- Angie Cartwright, PHR, Owner, Potentiality Coaching and Consulting
- Shane Sokoll, Assistant Professor and Director of the HR Management Degree Program, Concordia University
7:30-8:00 pm Closing Keynote by Bill Moyer, Leadership Expert and Co-Founder of SOS Leadership Institute
This program has been pre-approved for 2.0 (Specified -Strategic Business) recertification credit hours toward PHR, SPHR and GPHR recertification through the HR Certification Institute.
Register online at http://soscoaches.ticketbud.
Living Courageously
When we think of people with courage, we have images of soldiers and firefighters, the brave men and women we’ve read about in our history books, those who give their lives for a cause they believe in…real heroes. But do we ever picture ourselves? How about a family member or friend?
What does it mean to live courageously in our everyday lives?
The thought-provoking words of Mary Anne Radmacher ring true, “Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says ‘I will try again tomorrow.’"
We are courageous when we love unconditionally.
We are courageous when we give without expecting anything in return.
We are courageous when we dare to prioritize what matters most in our lives.
We are courageous when we dream big dreams.
We are courageous when we set goals.
We are courageous when we achieve our goals.
We are courageous when we abandon a goal that is no longer important to us.
We are courageous when we lead.
We are courageous when we follow the right leader.
We are courageous when we try again.
We are courageous when we learn from our mistakes.
We are courageous when we apologize with sincerity.
We are courageous when we forgive.
We are courageous when we choose significance over worldly success.
What would you add to this list? In what ways are you living courageously right now?
The best movie you haven't heard of
Last week I attended a special screening of a new movie that will hit 1000 theaters on October 21, 2011. You probably have not seen any advertisements for it on television. You probably haven’t seen any ads for it online or anywhere for that matter, but unlike all the movies with more publicity, The Mighty Macs (Quaker Media) is well worth the investment of time and money.The Golden Rule is wrong
Organizational Culture – Instilling Confidence, Inspiring Hope, Creating Leaders Who Make a Difference
- Culture is one of the biggest influencers on the success of a team, an organization, or even a family.
- Your culture is a reflection of your people.
- Culture is both a product and a process. It’s the what we do and how we do it.
- It’s the values and beliefs, the attitudes and standards, the moods and worldviews of the people in the group.
- The culture determines how employees act, how motivated and engaged they are, how they contribute to teams, how they solve problems, how they produce results, and ultimately how they serve clients.
- It’s about connectedness and organizations accepting their employees for who they are.
- The most successful leaders in an organization recognize the culture of which they are a part and can adapt as necessary, and that includes knowing when to offer praise to a team, share an uplifting story, or tell a silly joke.
- Leadership, problem solving, and conflict resolution are important elements in creating a positive team culture.
- Organizations need to be passionate about developing their employees because they deserve it. It increases their self-worth, their value to the organization and to your constituents.
- Culture is about development and growth. Is your company committed to helping employees develop into leaders? Is your organization committed to growth? Not just growth in the numbers, but the individual growth and professional development of each team member?
Timing is Everything: 20 Questions to See if the Time is Right

These words of wisdom from Ecclesiastes ring true both personally and professionally: “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens…”
Is the time right for you? For what, you ask? Here are 20 Questions to ponder as you reflect on what time it is in your life. Enjoy!
1. Is the time right for you to step into a leadership role?
2. Is the time right for you to learn something new?
3. Is the time right for you to thank someone for making a difference in your life?
4. Is the time right for you to make a difference in someone else’s life?
5. Is the time right for you to change?
6. Is the time right for you to find a coach?
7. Is the time right for you to offer a word of encouragement?
8. Is the time right for you to stop sabotaging yourself?
9. Is the time right for you to start believing in yourself?
10. Is the time right for you to clarify your priorities?
11. Is the time right for you to come to a deeper understanding of what matters most in your life?
12. Is the time right for you to look for a new job?
13. Is the time right for you to go back to school?
14. Is the time right for you to stop talking about getting healthy and start doing it?
15. Is the time right for you to be a mentor?
16. Is the time right for you to reach out to a friend in need?
17. Is the time right for you to forgive?
18. Is the time right for you to move on?
19. Is the time right for you to start counting your blessings?
20. Is the time right for you to set written goals and start working to achieve them?
Only YOU can know when the time is right to take action. Perhaps today is the day.