Right Place + Right Time = Pure Luck. Notsomuch!

"WOW! That happened to you. You must have been in the right place at the right time!"

At some point in your life, someone has probably told you how lucky you were to be in the right place at the right time. Sure, every so often, we get truly lucky in life and happen to have the experience of a lifetime. But I would argue that most of our "right place at the right time" moments are not luck. Bob Hope said it best:

“I've always been in the right place and time. Of course, I steered myself there.”

The next time you find yourself in the right place at the right time, think about how you got there. Chances are you put the wheels in motion and created the circumstances. It wasn't pure luck. It was the realization of a goal.

As 2011 comes to an end, take some time to think about this year and the ways in which YOU orchestrated those memorable "right place at the right time" moments. What stands out the most?

And if you haven't had many "right place at the right time" moments this year, think about how you're going to steer yourself in 2012. Will you start the year by writing your goals down and developing action plans? Will you spend the necessary time to find clarity about your life's purpose?

Or will you just keep your fingers crossed and hope for a stroke of good luck?

Multi-Tasking is a Myth

This morning I read a fantastic article from Inc. Magazine called "7 Things Highly Productive People Do." We're all trying to figure out ways to be more productive. And some of us buy into the myth that multi-tasking is possible.

Here's what the Inc. article had to say about the topic:
"Stop multi-tasking. No, seriously—stop. Switching from task to task quickly does not work. In fact, changing tasks more than 10 times in a day makes you dumber than being stoned. When you’re stoned, your IQ drops by five points. When you multitask, it drops by an average of 10 points, 15 for men, five for women (yes, men are three times as bad at multitasking than women)."

So now I know that trying to multi-task is actually making me stupid. Great. Surprising? Not so much. I typically feel dumber when I'm trying to do too many things at the same time. This is when important details fall through the cracks and mistakes are made. We've all been there. We reply to all and make a fool out of ourselves. We misspell "assess" in a report, and now it says "asses." It's never a good scene.

I am always annoyed when I see job descriptions that list multi-tasking as a skill they'd like a new employee to have. Yes, it is possible to do more than one thing at a time. As a mother, I absolutely know that at times my role calls for me to do several things at the same time. I'm cooking dinner, while setting the table, calling my husband to remind him to pick up milk on his way home, and supervising a brother and sister who have waged war against each other.

It is physically possible to multi-task. I can do more than one thing; I just can't do more than one thing WELL, and I often can't finish multiple things at the same time.

Essentially, people who think they're multi-tasking are good at starting things, but not always good at finishing them. Someone once told me that saying that you're multi-tasking is a "polite way of telling someone you haven’t heard a word they said." I find that to be true. Have you ever tried to multi-task during a meeting at work? When the meeting ends, you realize you have no idea what was discussed (and you pray that someone else paid attention and took notes).

Henry Ford had a great perspective on multi-tasking. He didn't find it to be a strength we should seek, but rather a weakness we should know exists. He once said, "A weakness of all human beings is trying to do too many things at once."

What do you think? Have you bought into the multi-tasking myth? What proactive steps can you take to get out of the multi-tasking cycle?

Source:
7 Things Highly Productive People Do by By Ilya Pozin, Inc. Magazine
Article Link: http://www.inc.com/ilya-pozin/7-things-highly-productive-people-do.html

One Player Can Be a Game Changer!

It has been noted time and time again in this blog that SOS Leadership is committed to developing leaders that make a difference. In society though this common question always seems to come up: Can one leader, one person, one player really make a difference?

Constantly, whether it is at work, home, or school there are always things that people wish could be better. Most times, people realize that change is needed, but they never take the action to implement those changes; or even bring up the fact that changes need to be made. I know that I have been in that position before. In the past, I chose to be a spectator and not get in the game. I figured I was only one person who stood no chance at making the changes that I thought desperately needed to be made. At the end of the day I was not willing to be a leader.

As I have matured it has become clearer to me that one player, one leader can be a game changer! It only takes one team player to step up and be a leader for change to occur. Of course, it is important for the whole team to follow that leader and want the same change to make a positive impact, but one team player is all that is needed to start the implementation of change.

Baylor University’s recent Heisman Trophy winning quarterback, Robert Griffin III, is a prime example that one player can be a game changer. RG3, as known by most, took a school that has rarely been praised for their football ability, and over night put not only Baylor, but also the city of Waco, TX on the map in a positive way. This tremendous accomplishment was done with one player stepping up and one coach who believed in him. Baylor Head Coach Art Briles said: “This outcome, in our minds, wasn't by chance -- it was by design. Robert has been preparing himself to be the best he can be for four years at Baylor. This award is the result of Robert's dedication and discipline and the support of our team and football program. This is the exclamation point on the direction of Baylor football and Baylor University." RG3 proved one player is all it takes to propel a team to greatness!

Napoleon Bonaparte once said: “Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, than to be able to decide.” So my question to you is, will you decide to step up and become a game changer? Will you accept the call to leadership?

I “Got Motivated…” Now what?

A couple weeks ago, my colleagues and I attended the Get Motivated seminar in Austin. SOS partner, Amber Fogarty provided a few key takeaways in her seminar follow-up blog, but I have more to add.

One thing that struck me was that 17,000 people attended this daylong event. They heard great speakers like, Lou Holtz (who was by far the best of the day), Bill Cosby, Mary Lou Retton, Colin Powell, and Rudy Giuliani. The speakers said mostly the same things, but they all said them well. Everybody in attendance seemed pretty darn motivated to me, but if that was the case why didn't anything or anyone change the next day?

I imagine those 17,000 people got excited, got inspired and got motivated, but the next day went back to business as usual. The reason for this is that an event like Get Motivated, although fun and at times useful, does nothing more that plant a seed. You cannot create positive change in your life or your business at a one day event. It takes clearly defined goals. It takes action plans. It takes hard work. It takes repetition. It takes commitment. None of those things were results from attending the Get Motivated seminar, but hopefully some people came out of it motivated to do all of those things.

At SOS, we help leaders get the most out of themselves and those they lead in order to get better results. We talk about a lot of the same things that the great Get Motivated speakers spoke about, but we help our clients go further than a one day event. We help them grow because we are as committed to their growth as they are. This is why we are so successful. One of our clients increased sales by 53 percent this year in a “down” economy. Another doubled the size of their staff while completely changing their culture in a positive way. Another client almost quadrupled their revenue.

All of our clients would probably say they “Got Motivated” by the work they did with SOS. But more importantly, they would say they “Got RESULTS!” So if you went to the Get Motivated seminar or any other one or two day event and were motivated to make changes in your life or business, give us a call (512-992-2985). We can help turn that motivation into results!

Developing Better Habits

In our work with clients, we talk a lot about developing better habits. In fact, when people ask me to tell them more about what SOS Leadership does, I often reply, "We're in the habit change business." We feel that habit change is inherently connected to leadership development.

The most basic definition of leadership is influence. As a leader, the way you influence others, and ultimately lead them, is your personal choice. With that choice comes great responsibility.

In our Seeds of Success program, we define the responsibilities of leadership. The first responsibility is one that can bring a certain amount of pressure and anxiety when we consider it in light of our weaknesses and bad habits:

People become like their leader.

When I think about this, at times it makes me feel sick to my stomach. Yes, there are many positive traits that I wouldn't mind others learning from me, but there are just as many negative characteristics that I don't want to pass on to anyone, especially those who consider me to be a leader in their lives.

But what can I do to develop better habits? How can I overcome habits that have developed over many years?

First and foremost, I have to name them. Yes, I have to say out loud what habits I need to change and why. As Nathaniel Branden once said, "The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance." Reflecting on Nathaniel's words, I know that this is easier said than done. For the most part, we are all aware of our shortcomings, but we don't necessarily accept them. I agree that we have to understand and accept that we are the way we are today; however, beginning right now we can commit to becoming a better version of ourselves.

SOS co-founder Bill Moyer reminds our clients often that the past does not equal the future, but the past does equal the present. We need to understand where we've been in order to fully commit to changing the future.

Once we are aware of the habits we want to change and have accepted that change is desired and necessary, then we have to make a commitment to developing better habits. This includes developing a written goal, complete with an action plan, for each habit we want to develop. The plan should identify the benefits to be gained by developing this particular habit, as well as the losses to be avoided if we do not change. Beyond that, the plan needs to spell out each obstacle and how to overcome it, as well as how we will track our progress and who we will ask to hold us accountable.

Don't underestimate the power of tracking and accountability. These are vitally important components of your plan and will help you to always be aware of your progress and challenged when you get off track.

So what habits will you commit to developing (or changing)? In the words of Aristotle, "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." A new year is the perfect time to make a change. Go for it! Become more excellent!

Get Motivated Highlights

On Monday the SOS Leadership team attended the Get Motivated seminar in Austin. Speakers included Mary Lou Retton, Bill Cosby, Howard Putnam, General Colin Powell, Rudy Guiliani, Krish Dhanam, Lou Holtz, and General Stanley McChrystal. Having these folks under one roof in my hometown was pretty awesome. In this blog post, I'll share with you a selection of the most thought-provoking quotes from the seminar. Since I'm a thinker, I'll also share with you the questions that each quote generated for my personal year-end reflection. Here we go:
  • "Information without implementation is useless." What information have I gained this year that I haven't put into practice?
  • "If you're happy, tell your face." Does my face reflect the happiness I feel? Do I look approachable?
  • "Growth is uncomfortable." Do I recognize the growth opportunities that are in front of me? Am I willing to go outside of my comfort zone to become a better version of myself?
  • "Before you speed up, you need to slow down." When can I find time to slow down to reflect on my goals and how I am going to grow in the year to come?
  • "Hope without gratitude is hopelessness." Am I combining my gratitude with genuine hope for my future?
  • "Give more than you have. Leave more than you take." How am I giving back to my community? Am I actively focused on leaving a legacy?
  • "Work is a privilege." Even when my schedule is crazy, do I recognize what a privilege it is to work doing something I love?
  • "A true leader knows that there is no unimportant person in an organization." Do I value each and every person I encounter? What can I do to make someone feel important today?
  • "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." How open am I to learning? Will I be able to see the teacher when the time comes?
  • "Leaders don't fear change. They embrace it." Am I ready to embrace the changes that will come in 2012?
The new year will be here in 31 days. Let's get motivated together!

From Good to Grate(ful) - Blog 3 of 3

Welcome to a 3-Part Series called "An Attitude of Gratitude." Last year the SOS Leadershippartners began a tradition of blogging about gratitude and what matters most during the week of Thanksgiving. To read last year's post by Amber Fogarty, click here. To read last year's post by Bill Moyer, click here. To read last year's post by Billy Moyer, click here. Today SOS Leadership co-founder Bill Moyer blogs about taking the journey from good to grate(ful).

Several years ago Jim Collins wrote a must-read for professionals called Good to Great. Collins and his research team identified a set of elite companies that made the leap to great results and sustained those results for at least fifteen years. My favorite quote from this important business book reads, “When [what you are deeply passionate about, what you can be best in the world at and what drives your economic engine] come together, not only does your work move toward greatness, but so does your life. For, in the end, it is impossible to have a great life unless it is a meaningful life.”

As I reflect on this year and my life as a whole, I am reminded that the goal of our life’s journey is to go from good to great. In my book, Seeds of Success, we call this the journey from success to significance. So how do we get from good to great? Our focus should be on being grateful.When we’re focused on leading a life of significance, gratitude naturally flows from us.

Too often we focus on what we don’t have, rather than being thankful for what we do have. This year has been difficult for many. Perhaps it’s been rough for you. As we encounter valleys in our lives, it isn’t always easy to remember all that we have to be grateful for.

As I’ve worked with many people this year who have struggled through some difficult times, I’m especially grateful for the lessons I’ve learned from them. It amazes me how thankful they are, in the midst of enormous obstacles, for the opportunity to reprioritize what’s most important. They reminded me that life isn’t all about the material things that we think we just can’t do without. Life is about recognizing the greatness of the little things that we really can’t live without.

Here are a few of the things I’m most grateful for this year:

  • In a year when most businesses have struggled, ours has experienced tremendous growth.
  • My work as a coach is also my ministry.
  • Our family business has helped to change the lives of many families.
  • I’ve read more books to my grandchildren than I’ve read for myself.
  • I’ve been blessed to welcome a new daughter-in-law into our home and to be at my wife’s side as we said goodbye to her father as God welcomed him home.

I have learned that good is not good enough; we should strive to be great. As we continue on our journey from good to great, we must seek to expand the journey from great to grateful.

Thanksgiving Focus on What Matters Most - Blog 2 of 3

Welcome to a 3-Part Series called "An Attitude of Gratitude." Last year the SOS Leadership partners began a tradition of blogging about gratitude and what matters most during the week of Thanksgiving. To read last year's post by Amber Fogarty, click here. To read last year's post by Bill Moyer, click here. To read last year's post by Billy Moyer, click here. Today Billy Moyer blogs about focusing on what matters most.

In December 2008, a book written by my dad and I was published. The book is called Seeds of Success: A Journey from Success to Significance. I have been thinking about the book lately because it was just re-published in Indonesian. My dad and I are now internationally published authors, which is certainly something to be thankful for.

I have also been thinking about the book because of what has been going on in my life recently. The theme of Seeds of Success is really about focusing on what matters most in your life. What matters most is a focus, not a question.

In Seeds of Success, my dad shares numerous stories about how in his life he has failed to focus on what matters most. He was more concerned about success than he was about significance. After years of struggles with this, he figured it out and his children, especially me are better because of that.

I am truly thankful that my dad figured it out because I now am married. On November 5th of this year I said “I do” to the woman of my dreams. In the coming years I am sure she and I will have our struggles, but the one thing I know for certain is that I will always remember what and who matters most. I will never let work come before her. She is what matters most and everything else comes after.

So as Thanksgiving approaches, I would like to say how thankful I am for the person who matters most to me, my wife (still getting used to that) Ashley. When I said, “I do,” I chose significance over success. I will focus on what matters most.

An Attitude of Gratitude - Blog 1 of 3

Welcome to a 3-Part Series called "An Attitude of Gratitude." Last year the SOS Leadership partners began a tradition of blogging about gratitude and what matters most during the week of Thanksgiving. To read last year's post by Amber Fogarty, click here. To read last year's post by Bill Moyer, click here. To read last year's post by Billy Moyer, click here. And without further ado, let us begin this year's Thanksgiving blog series!


"I am grateful for sight and sound and breath. If ever in my life there is a pouring out of blessings beyond that, then I will be grateful for the miracle of abundance."

- The Traveler's Gift: Seven Decisions that Determine Personal Success by Andy Andrews

At this moment, many people have far more than they need. You may be one of them. If you have a roof over your head, food on your table, a car to get you where you need and want to go, and some money in the bank, you are most likely able to meet all of your basic needs. You live in abundance.

I fall into this category. Yet, in the midst of abundance, I sometimes find myself wanting more. I dream of being debt-free, of making certain home improvements, of owning particular things. My husband and I talk about things we'd like to get for our kids that we didn't have when we were growing up.

I feel torn about this on a daily basis. We live in abundance. Sure, we don't have as much as other people we know, but we have more than enough.

This Thanksgiving I am challenging myself to reflect on the miracle of abundance in my life. I want to remember each and every person who doesn't have enough. I want to reach out to them, not just in thought, but in deed.

The poor are often faceless to us. We don't necessarily see them. We don't hear their stories. We don't know their pain. We often focus so much on our own stuff, whatever it is, that we forget about those who struggle on a daily basis. This Thanksgiving join me in reflecting on abundance. Join me in making a commitment to do something, anything, for those in your community who are experiencing the pain and shame of poverty.

There are many ways you can make a difference. You can give of your time by volunteering; you can make a financial gift to an organization that is near and dear to your heart. You can organize a food drive, a clothing drive, or a toiletry drive for a local homeless shelter or food pantry. If you have kids, you can make any of the above a fun family project. Or you can host a drive with a group of friends, a church ministry you're involved with, or a sports team. We all can do something. EVERY act of kindness counts.

"No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another...A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves."

- Amelia Earhart

Mother Teresa once said, “It's not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” Let us love deeply and join our voices together in giving thanks for what matters most, not just during this week of Thanksgiving, but always.

Being a leader takes courage

One point I often make when speaking to groups about leadership is that stepping up and being a leader takes courage. That statement has become even truer with what has been going on the past couple weeks at The Pennsylvania State University.

I want to take this opportunity to say that I am very sad and appalled about the crimes Jerry Sandusky is being accused of committing. I pray for the victims and hope they can someday find peace.

Sadly, the majority of the media and public outcry from this story has been about what legendary coach, Joe Paterno did not do. I must say that I am ashamed by how people have reacted towards him, but I am not at all surprised. That is the world we live in. We constantly search for reasons to tear people down. Joe Paterno was and is a great man. He is a leader. But yes, according to reports it seems he could have done more. He made a mistake. But haven't we all?

Joe Paterno’s mistake, his lack of action proves why stepping up and being a leader takes so much courage. Look how easy it was for people to turn on him. Yet, so many who crucify him know nothing about what he has done not just for college football, but for our country.

Joe Paterno helped shape the lives of thousands of young men as the coach at Penn State. He served as a father figure, a second father, a disciplinarian, a motivator, a friend, and a leader to so many. And yet, this is how we as a society repay him? We judge him without knowing all the facts? We condemn him for lack of action when we have no idea how we would have acted in the same situation?

Many years ago when I was just 15 years old, after JoePa (as his fans call him) won his 324th game as a head coach passing Bear Bryant on the all-time list, I wrote an article for the Waco Tribune-Herald about the Legend of JoePa. In my opinion, it was one of the best articles I have ever written. At the time, I wanted to be a sports writer. I wrote the article because I had the utmost respect for JoePa. He was one of my hero’s and I wanted to celebrate in public his greatness. After the article was published I sent it to JoePa and a few days later I received a handwritten note from him thanking me for writing the article and encouraging me to keep writing. He made my year with that little action. I will always remember that, no matter how the public remembers him.

Being a leader takes courage and Joe Paterno has answered the call to leadership over his 62 years of coaching and his nearly 85 years of life. His legend will forever remain with me. I just hope that we as a society can focus on who allegedly committed the crime. That man’s name is Jerry Sandusky, not Joe Paterno. Sandusky is the one who it seems has failed as a leader. 

Joe Paterno has succeeded time and time again. Let’s try to remember that. Let’s remember and pray for the victims. And let’s try to remember what Jesus, the Most Valuable Leader of all taught us: “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.”    

Countdown to a New Year - 47 Days to Go

Before you know it, you'll be ringing in 2012. In fact, the new year is just 47 days away. That means you have 47 days to plan, 47 days to determine what you will do to make 2012 your best year ever.

I don't know about you, but I'm fired up about the possibilities. A new year is a new opportunity to get things right in your life. It's a new chance to focus on what matters most. It's a time to reflect on new beginnings, on goals you will achieve, on commitments you will honor, and on relationships you will build.

So what are you doing RIGHT NOW to plan for 2012? Have you spent time reflecting on 2011? Have you thought about you've achieved this year? Have you started setting your 2012 goals yet?

Often times we let the holiday hustle and bustle take precedence over setting goals and planning for the year to come. Don't wait until New Year's Eve and settle for spur of the moment resolutions. Invest time in yourself now to plan to make 2012 your best year ever!

Get Back on Track - Protecting Goals

Sonya Apodeca recently completed the SOS Leadership Protecting Goals Showcase, a 5-week goal-setting program that teaches the process of goal setting and achievement. Here's what she had to say about the experience:

"The Protecting Goals program reinforced bits of goal setting knowledge I already had, helped fill in gaps that I did not realize existed, and offered an organized step-by-step process. The sequence of questions and thoughts that we kept top-of-mind over five weeks brought goal setting into better focus for me. The tools provided make creating, evaluating, planning, and tracking goals more manageable and effective which motivates me to continue using them. Participation in this program was exactly what I needed to get back on the goal setting and achievement track. I highly recommend this program to anyone who wants to be energized (or re-energized) to achieve lifetime dreams."

- Sonya Apodeca, November 2011 Protecting Goals: The Science of Personal Achievement Graduate

Where is our program called Protecting Goals? We NEED to protect our goals from three key obstacles:
1) Ourselves - How often have you been the number one reason why you haven't achieved a goal that was important to you? We often sabotage ourselves. We dissuade ourselves from moving forward, from working toward the goals we've set for ourselves.
2) Other people - We all have people in our lives who try to prevent us from achieving our goals. Sometimes it's because they love us and want to protect us. Other times it's because our progress makes them more aware of their own lack of progress. Whatever the reason, we must protect our goals from them so that we don't allow them to stop us from going for it!
3) Our other goals - Until we have a clear understanding of how we prioritize what matters most in our lives, our goals can compete with each other for our attention. It's vital to figure out how we prioritize our goals so that we don't neglect the goals (and people) that are important to us.

To learn more about the Protecting Goals: The Science of Personal Achievement program, click here.

Having It All is an Attitude

We’re all searching for meaning in our lives. I see it every day in my interactions with the clients we work with and in my conversations with family and friends. We want to know that our lives matter, that we have a purpose.

Life is short, sometimes so short that we are overwhelmed by the reality of how little time we have. Instinctively, we know that we need to make every day count. We hear lots of talk about living life to the fullest, having no regrets, and remembering that tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Yet, do we really take these words to heart in the way we live our lives on a daily basis?

I wish I could say the answer is yes for me, that I get it right every day. But I don’t. I struggle every day to “keep the main thing the main thing,” to remember our organizational mantra (and my personal mission) of focusing on “what matters most.”

These words ring true: “The secret to having it all is knowing you already do.” Having it all is an attitude. It’s about wanting what you have, about giving thanks every day for the people in your life and the many abundant blessings that are right in front of you.

Today I know that I have it all. Do you?

The Perfect Balance Myth

We hear a lot of people talking about balance – balancing work and life, balancing family responsibilities and volunteer commitments, balancing a healthy lifestyle and spiritual time, balancing all the things we want to do with our time and even the things we don’t, like cleaning, car maintenance, laundry, and the long list of to-do’s that often overwhelm us.

I don’t know about you, but for a long time I thought it was possible to do it all. A wise coach once told me, “You can have everything you want in life, just not all at the same time.” I am trying to take that message to heart and not beat myself up when I can’t do it all, when I can’t be all things to all people, and when I have to say no.

I am starting to understand (slowly but surely) that perfect balance is a myth. It not about giving equal time to each area of my life. It’s about understanding my priorities and aligning how I spend my time with those priorities. Further, it’s about having people in my life who hold me accountable when the way I’m spending my time isn’t a reflection of what matters most to me.

These are hard lessons to learn. I talk to coaching clients often about the difference between knowing and doing. Even though I KNOW that perfect balance is a myth, for some reason I keep chasing it, thinking that maybe somehow I’m superhuman enough to achieve it.

Here’s to letting go of unrealistic expectations of ourselves. Here’s to releasing ourselves from guilt when we can’t do it all. Here’s to taking it one day a time and doing the best that we can each day to prioritize what matters most. Here’s to becoming the best version of ourselves!

The Highlights from the Creating a Positive Organizational Culture Event

On Tuesday evening, SOS Leadership Institute, Concordia University, and campus2careers hosted a fantastic event entitled "Creating a Positive Organizational Culture." Featuring two dynamic keynotes and a panel discussion, the event offered learning, information sharing, and networking to more than 75 professionals. Click here to see photos from the event. Here are a few of the highlights:

From the Opening Keynote by Dr. Don Christian of Concordia University:
  • Focus on your organization's values and never lose sight of the organization's mission. Act in a manner that's consistent with the values, mission, and vision, and talk about it.
  • Assure that your mission and vision are aligned with your organization's mission and vision.
  • At times you must connect the dots for people. Help others to see how your actions align with the organization's mission and vision. Celebrate each success.
  • Find partners who can help you to get a seat at the table. Never underestimate the value of relationships.
  • "The only power you don't have is the power you give away." Empower yourself. If you don't feel invited to the table, invite yourself.
  • You change an organization one project at a time.
  • Culture eats strategy for breakfast.
  • If you can't change the culture of your organization, change the culture of your department. If you can't change the culture of your department, change the culture of those around you.
  • As an HR professional, challenge yourself to ask good questions, be a good listener, and always provide value.
From the Panel facilitated by Nathan Green of campus2careers:
  • Everyone within the organization is responsible for shaping the culture. HR professionals have many touchpoints and must recognize the influence they can have on the culture.
  • A culture definition shared by a panelist: "Whatever it takes to survive."
  • To have an impact on culture, HR professionals need relationships throughout the org. They must be viewed as business partners. Connect with decision makers.
  • Come to work everyday believing that what you do matters.
  • HR professionals must have the courage to be the voice when the organization's leaders are making decisions that don't align with the type of culture they say they want to create.
  • Hire people who align with the culture your organization is striving to create, which isn't necessarily the culture that currently exists.
  • Key metrics HR pros can use when "taking the organization's culture temperature" include: employee retention, revenue, and employee engagement. Exit interviews can also provide important insights.
  • Transparency is key for HR pros when issuing surveys to assess culture. Are you sharing & taking action on the results?
  • Leverage management. Be a leader. People leave managers, not companies.
  • Each individual manager within your organization establishes a climate. What types of climates are being created by the managers within your organization?
  • If you're going to change a culture, you have to make sure the leadership is on board.
  • As a leader, engage to build trust and rapport. Make it fun!
  • In a positive culture, the voice of the customer is heard everywhere.
  • Often we jump to solutions without thinking about the strategic picture. In order to be viewed as true business partners, HR professionals need to always think strategically and not simply be "solutioneers."
  • Most leaders get culture. They just don't know how to impact it.
  • To turn around a toxic culture, start with yourself.
A huge thank you to our fantastic panelists who generously shared the insights above and many more:
- Angie Cartwright, PHR, Owner, Potentiality Coaching and Consulting
- Brett Rodgers, HR Manager, Anue Systems
- Shane Sokoll, SPHR, Assistant Professor and Director of the HR Management Degree Program, Concordia University
- Angela Loeb, Owner, InSync Resources

From the Closing Keynote by Bill Moyer of SOS Leadership Institute:
  • Are you in business? Or in busy-ness?
  • Are you so busy doing everything that you don't have to time to do what matters most?
  • A good culture looks like personal responsibility. Personal responsibility starts at the top.
  • All organizations are perfectly designed for the results they are getting.
  • There's nothing soft about soft skills. What's soft about communication?
  • To lead your organization toward a culture of growth, implement this mindset: If you don't grow, you go.
  • The enemy of growing is knowing. Don't let what you think you know stand in the way of what you can learn and how you can grow.
  • All organizations are made up of two things: systems and people. You manage systems. You lead people.
  • What is a stagnant culture? "Don't know they don't know. Know but won't grow. All blow and no go."
  • What is a development culture? "Values driven. Ethical leadership. Development of all people at all levels."
  • Is your organization focused on what matters most? Focused on people or the bottom line?
  • You can be a difference maker. Are you making the difference you want (or need) to make?
Thanks to all who attended. We look forward to seeing you at future events...the plans are already in the works for our next event! Stay tuned! Subscribe to the SOS Leadership Seeds of Success e-newsletter so you'll know when our next event will take place.

It's all about you (yes, REALLY!)

Today's guest blogger is Jordana Jaffe of Quarter Life Clarity.

You know when you're annoyed with someone?
Or when you're convinced something is THEIR fault?
Or when they always seem to say the wrong thing?

Well, I have some news for you.

It has NOTHING to do with them, and EVERYTHING to do with you.

I want you to read that 3 more times, and really get it before we move on.

Once you get this, your life will change dramatically.

Everyone is really just a mirror for us. The relationships we have with our friends, colleagues, family, and significant other are simply opportunities to learn more about ourselves.

When you react to something, it doesn't have to do with the other person. It has to do with your own stuff - whether it reminds you of how you used to be, or how someone used to treat you, or a quality of one of your parents that you can't stand, our reactions have nothing to do with what the other person is doing, and everything to do with us.

But here's the thing. It's a lot easier to just point the finger at them and declare that it's THEIR problem. If only they were different, if only they responded in some other way, if only, if only, if only... Interesting enough, you would have the same reaction to what was done regardless of who did it. And your reaction is yours, and yours alone.

This is why some people can tolerate certain things in relationships, while others can't. This is why certain people annoy you for some reason, but they don't annoy your friends, even they act the exact same way to them.

This wake-up call may seem a tad abrasive and overwhelming, but it's actually very exciting. When you realize and really get that it's all about you, you can stop waiting for someone else to make you feel better, and instead, reclaim your own personal power.

Here's the good news and the bad news: No one can really make you feel better in a real way and for the long term except for you. And you know what? It's not their responsibility either. It's taken me quite a while (read: 29 years) to get this. I've been in plenty of relationships where I not only wanted people to make me feel better, but I EXPECTED it. And surprise, surprise, none of those relationships have lasted. Instead, I've spent the past few years working on me, and really strengthening my ability to give me what I had been seeking out from other people for far too long.

The more we commit to being responsible for our own happiness, the less we will expect of people, the more we will appreciate them, and the healthier our relationships will be in general.

Doing this, however, takes work, and isn't as easy as assigning the responsibility to someone else. It requires you to look within, really get to know yourself, forgive yourself, love yourself - flaws and all, and become personally accountable for your life. Now the cool thing about this is that it's SO rewarding and beyond freeing. How cool to not have to depend on anyone else to make you feel happy. I mean, if that isn't empowering, I don't know what is.

So, what will it be? Are you ready to reclaim your personal power and give yourself everything that, up until this point, you've been waiting (and ultimately, expecting) to get from someone else, or will you continue pointing the finger at everyone except the person who is really responsible?


Jordana Jaffe created Quarter Life Clarity to empower and help women in their 20's and 30's clarify their goals, identify their passions, and live their best and most authentic lives.
Having graduated from college with an English degree and absolutely no direction beyond that, to being the founder of two successful businesses featured on NBC, in Women's Health, People StyleWatch and the New York Daily News, within only a few years, Jordana realized that success is YOURS for the taking, regardless of age or background. She believes in educating young women on the possibility of playing BIG and living full out, and has since committed herself to helping young women create the quarter lives of their dreams, whether that's figuring out your ideal career, or finding the perfect partner.

Jordana speaks on college panels, at university functions, sorority meetings, and leads her own workshops as well. To find out more or to book Jordana to come to your school or event, please email her.

Facebook Allows You to Wallow

We all have bad days. No one’s life is 100% perfect all the time. Before social networks existed, what did you do when you were having a tough day? You probably called a friend or family member and talked it out, maybe whined a bit, and that was usually that, right?

Now we have Facebook, Twitter, and a host of other ways to be connected 24/7 with a ton of people – friends, acquaintances, people in our professional networks, and those random folks we knew way back when and haven’t thought about in years.

So now if you have a crappy day, you can instantly share the full details of why your day sucked (or why your entire life now sucks) with hundreds of unsuspecting “friends” and “followers.” Awesome, right? WRONG! Here’s why (prepare for a soapbox moment…):


Your post will allow you to wallow in negativity for way longer than necessary.


Chances are your mood will turn around, unless you are a perpetual “Debbie Downer” whose glass is always half empty. When your mood improves, which may be an hour later (or even a day or two later if whatever had you down was a pretty big deal), you’ll still have people replying to your post, asking if you’re okay, offering to help, and reminding you of the crappiness that occurred. That’s when you’re susceptible to wallowing. Every single response, every friend who genuinely wants to help, will remind you of what was (or still is) wrong.


Life is too short to focus on what’s wrong. Your time and energy can be much better spent choosing to focus on all the things that are right in your life. Trust me, there are many.


So the next time you feel the need to spew your negative energy to the masses, remind yourself that you don’t want to wallow in negativity. Post something uplifting instead. Who knows? Your words may be just what one of your friends needs to read at that very moment to turn their day around.


“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity.
The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
~ Winston Churchill

Creating a Positive Organizational Culture Event - October 11th

SOS Leadership Institute, Concordia University, and campus2careers are thrilled to invite you to:

Creating a Positive Organizational Culture
on Tuesday, October 11, 2011 from 5:30-8:00 pm
on the beautiful campus of Concordia University in Austin


This exciting event will tackle the highly debated topic of how to create a positive organizational culture. What does it take to engage employees and build morale? How do you turn around a toxic culture? What role does your leadership team play in creating a dynamic, employee-focused culture? Featuring two dynamic keynotes and a panel discussion, this is an evening of learning, information sharing, and networking that you don’t want to miss.

Event Agenda:
5:30-6:00 pm Networking Reception
6:00-6:30 pm Opening Keynote by Dr. Don Christian, Dean of the Concordia University College of Business
6:30-7:30 pm Panel Discussion facilitated by Nathan Green, President of campus2careers
Panelists include:
- Angela Loeb, Owner at InSync Resources
- Brett Rodgers, HR Manager, Anue Systems
- Angie Cartwright, PHR, Owner, Potentiality Coaching and Consulting
- Shane Sokoll, Assistant Professor and Director of the HR Management Degree Program, Concordia University
7:30-8:00 pm Closing Keynote by Bill Moyer, Leadership Expert and Co-Founder of SOS Leadership Institute

This program has been pre-approved for 2.0 (Specified -Strategic Business) recertification credit hours toward PHR, SPHR and GPHR recertification through the HR Certification Institute.

Tickets are $10 in advance and $20 at the door.
Register online at http://soscoaches.ticketbud.com/positiveculture


p.s. If you're a student and would like to attend the event for free, please email Amber Fogarty from your school email address, and she'll provide a discount code.

Living Courageously

When we think of people with courage, we have images of soldiers and firefighters, the brave men and women we’ve read about in our history books, those who give their lives for a cause they believe in…real heroes. But do we ever picture ourselves? How about a family member or friend?

What does it mean to live courageously in our everyday lives?

The thought-provoking words of Mary Anne Radmacher ring true, “Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says ‘I will try again tomorrow.’"

We are courageous when we love unconditionally.
We are courageous when we give without expecting anything in return.
We are courageous when we dare to prioritize what matters most in our lives.
We are courageous when we dream big dreams.
We are courageous when we set goals.
We are courageous when we achieve our goals.
We are courageous when we abandon a goal that is no longer important to us.
We are courageous when we lead.
We are courageous when we follow the right leader.
We are courageous when we try again.
We are courageous when we learn from our mistakes.
We are courageous when we apologize with sincerity.
We are courageous when we forgive.
We are courageous when we choose significance over worldly success.

What would you add to this list? In what ways are you living courageously right now?

The best movie you haven't heard of

Last week I attended a special screening of a new movie that will hit 1000 theaters on October 21, 2011. You probably have not seen any advertisements for it on television. You probably haven’t seen any ads for it online or anywhere for that matter, but unlike all the movies with more publicity, The Mighty Macs (Quaker Media) is well worth the investment of time and money.

The Mighty Macs is about what we crave in America, an underdog who overcomes numerous obstacles to achieve a dream! The movie is based on the true story of the 1971-72 Immaculata College Women’s Basketball team that became the first Cinderella story in the women’s game, winning the National Championship as a 15 seed.

The Immaculata team was led by Cathy Rush, a woman who had the courage to break through the cultural norms and be who she wanted to be, not who the world told her to be. Her leadership is the reason for the success of her team. She was strong, confident, and had the fire in her to motivate her team to greatness no matter the odds.

Cathy Rush is the type of leader we all should strive to be, and she is one of the many reasons you should see The Mighty Macs. The movie has a strong faith component as Immaculata College is a Catholic School that was run by nuns. The faith component makes the movie even better. It is for all ages, for all denominations, women or men, boys or girls. The story is true and unlike many Hollywood movies, the filmmaker (Tim Chambers) did not stretch the truth.

The Mighty Macs is the female version of Hoosiers. The story is that good. It will have you on the edge of your seat. If you are like me, it will bring a tear to your eye. It will make you want to overcome the odds and accomplish your own dreams! Do not miss out on the movie!

The Golden Rule is wrong

Quite often, I go to events where someone speaks about how they have become successful. Sometimes it is a keynote and others time it is a panel discussion format. One thing I have noticed is the way the majority of people answer a certain question. When they are asked to talk about how they are so successful or about what makes them a great leader, they often respond by saying they live and work by the Golden Rule.

For those who do not know the Golden Rule, it states that I must treat others the way I would like to be treated. I completely disagree with the Golden Rule! It is a myth. I believe it leads to poor communication, bad leadership, failed organizations, and even failed marriages.

You see, the Golden Rule is wrong. I should not treat others the way “I” want to be treated; I should treat them the way “THEY” need to be treated. Let me give some examples:

In an organization, should a manager really treat all of he or she’s team the way he or she wants to be treated? What if the manager prefers to be communicated with through email? What if the manager likes to be recognized with a pat on the butt? Does that mean the manager would recognize every employee that way? An effective manager is also an effective leader, and an effective leader knows their people. What motivates them? What is their communication style? Do they need to be told they are doing a good job? An effective leader treats others the way that person needs and wants to be treated.

Relationships are the same way. I am getting married in November. What if I treated my future wife the way I want to be treated? I am a guy. I don’t need to talk through things. I think things through. I don’t talk about my feelings, nor do I want to. But what if she does? What if she is more of a feelings person? Do I need to change? Does she? The answer is both yes and no. I should not completely change myself, nor should she. But I should work to treat her the way she needs to be treated. I should know that when there is a problem, she will need to talk about it. She should know that I need to think things through first. I think treating your partner the way you want to be treated is one of the reasons the divorce rate is so high.

So remember that the Golden Rule is wrong. Think about that this weekend. How can you treat your spouse the way he or she needs to be treated? How can you treat your employees the way they need to be treated? Together, I know we can change the meaning of the Golden Rule. It’s about time.

Organizational Culture – Instilling Confidence, Inspiring Hope, Creating Leaders Who Make a Difference

Welcome to Week 8 of the SOS Leadership Blog Series:
Creating a Positive Organizational Culture
This is the final blog in our series about engaging employees, boosting morale, and creating a dynamic culture. A HUGE thank you to our fantastic guest bloggers, some of the best and brightest HR folks around! Don’t forget to follow SOS Leadership on Twitter and like us on Facebook to keep up-to-date on future blog posts! Happy Friday!!!

Today SOS Leadership Partner, Amber Fogarty, is wrapping up the blog series with a post entitled, “Organizational Culture – Instilling Confidence, Inspiring Hope, Creating Leaders Who Make a Difference.” You can follow Amber on Twitter @afogarty2005

This blog series has exceeded my expectations. The posts over the last 8 weeks have been thought-provoking, motivating, and, at times, controversial. Together we have explored organizational culture from many perspectives.

Here are a few of the highlights:
  • Culture is one of the biggest influencers on the success of a team, an organization, or even a family.
  • Your culture is a reflection of your people.
  • Culture is both a product and a process. It’s the what we do and how we do it.
  • It’s the values and beliefs, the attitudes and standards, the moods and worldviews of the people in the group.
  • The culture determines how employees act, how motivated and engaged they are, how they contribute to teams, how they solve problems, how they produce results, and ultimately how they serve clients.
  • It’s about connectedness and organizations accepting their employees for who they are.
  • The most successful leaders in an organization recognize the culture of which they are a part and can adapt as necessary, and that includes knowing when to offer praise to a team, share an uplifting story, or tell a silly joke.
  • Leadership, problem solving, and conflict resolution are important elements in creating a positive team culture.
  • Organizations need to be passionate about developing their employees because they deserve it. It increases their self-worth, their value to the organization and to your constituents.
  • Culture is about development and growth. Is your company committed to helping employees develop into leaders? Is your organization committed to growth? Not just growth in the numbers, but the individual growth and professional development of each team member?
We were reminded that our people have tremendous leadership potential and encouraged to empower them to reach their full potential. We were challenged to consider what we can do differently to make our work environment a better place.

From my perspective, creating a positive organizational culture is about these three things:
1. Instilling Confidence
2. Inspiring Hope
3. Creating Leaders Who Make a Difference

Let’s strive to instill confidence in the organization as a whole, in its mission, its vision for the future, and its leadership. And let’s not forget to instill self-confidence in each of our employees. Who wouldn’t want to work for a visionary organization with strong, ethical leadership that builds confidence and believes in its people?

Let’s strive to inspire hope that organizational change is always possible. Let’s remind ourselves daily of one of the highest callings of leadership, as eloquently communicated by Napoleon Bonaparte: “A leader is a dealer in hope.” We all want to be inspired. We long for something to believe in, someone to believe, and to have someone believe in us!

Lastly, let’s strive to create leaders who make a difference. Let’s build an organizational culture that empowers people and offers them opportunities for growth. Let’s create a culture of lifelong learning, where team members at all levels receive the gift of personal development. This is one of the surest ways to engage employees, boost morale, and build a dynamic culture!

What else would you add to this list? What does organizational culture mean to you? I look forward to your comments.

Timing is Everything: 20 Questions to See if the Time is Right

These words of wisdom from Ecclesiastes ring true both personally and professionally: “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens…”

Is the time right for you? For what, you ask? Here are 20 Questions to ponder as you reflect on what time it is in your life. Enjoy!

1. Is the time right for you to step into a leadership role?

2. Is the time right for you to learn something new?

3. Is the time right for you to thank someone for making a difference in your life?

4. Is the time right for you to make a difference in someone else’s life?

5. Is the time right for you to change?

6. Is the time right for you to find a coach?

7. Is the time right for you to offer a word of encouragement?

8. Is the time right for you to stop sabotaging yourself?

9. Is the time right for you to start believing in yourself?

10. Is the time right for you to clarify your priorities?

11. Is the time right for you to come to a deeper understanding of what matters most in your life?

12. Is the time right for you to look for a new job?

13. Is the time right for you to go back to school?

14. Is the time right for you to stop talking about getting healthy and start doing it?

15. Is the time right for you to be a mentor?

16. Is the time right for you to reach out to a friend in need?

17. Is the time right for you to forgive?

18. Is the time right for you to move on?

19. Is the time right for you to start counting your blessings?

20. Is the time right for you to set written goals and start working to achieve them?

Only YOU can know when the time is right to take action. Perhaps today is the day.

Organizational Culture—You Do Make a Difference

Welcome to Week 7 of the SOS Leadership Blog Series:
Creating a Positive Organizational Culture
Next week we'll wrap up our blog series about engaging employees, boosting morale, and creating a dynamic culture. We have an awesome lineup of guest bloggers, some of the best and brightest HR folks around! Come back each Friday to hear their words of wisdom. If you need to be reminded, follow SOS Leadership on Twitter and like us on Facebook, and we'll let you know when the blogs are posted! Happy Friday!!!

Today's inspirational blog post entitled Organizational Culture-You Do Make a Difference is by Alicia Robertson, MSOLE, Director of Mission Integration for the Seton Healthcare Family.

When you think about the word culture, what comes to mind? Perhaps you think about different groups of people around the world or in your hometown. What people eat, what they wear, how they talk, and how they love are all examples of societal cultures. But what about when you think about an organizational culture, what do you think of? Do meetings start on time, or do they perpetually start 15 minutes late? Do people small talk in the elevator or smile at each other as they pass in the hallway? Does your boss email you at 2am or on the weekends, yet talks about work/life balance? Do people leave early or stay late every day? The answers to those questions exemplify an organization’s culture. It’s the “how we do things around here” response.

At first glance you probably don’t realize just how much influence you have on “how things are done around here.” People automatically think that it’s the leaders of an organization that really define a culture. While partly that is true, after all they do set the requirements for hours worked in a week, etc., there are more strong influencers in an organization than those who hold C-level positions. Organizational culture is created by each and every person on the payroll. We all have leadership influence whether we logistically lead a team of people or not. If you call a meeting to order, what time does it start? If you receive and email on the weekend, do you respond? Or are you the one sending an email in the middle of the night? What expectations do you have of yourself and others with whom you work?

To get to the bottom of a culture, you have to look at your own “stuff” and the individual accountability you have to yourself and others. It simply is the name of the game when it comes to creating or changing a culture. Will you continue to promote certain behaviors? Do you have the courage to stop those you don’t like? Have you become so acculturated into your organization that it’s hard to tell the difference between what is and what should be? These are difficult questions to ask yourself, but are a must before looking at someone else as being responsible for “how things are done around here.” Absolutely, key leaders have influence in some areas of culture, but the rituals, the language, the attitudes of the collective are much more influential than any one person’s words or behaviors…over a long period of time.

Culture is really both a product and a process. It’s the what we do and how we do it. For companies that have been around for a long time, it can represent hundreds of years of expertise and wisdom from what worked well and what didn’t. It is something that is passed down from long time employees to new hires. This includes the really good stuff, as well as the really bad stuff. If you’ve read Malcolm Gladwell’s “The Tipping Point” (2002), you can see how a collection of little bitty things can make a huge impact on organizational culture, on the glue that holds an organization together. So this simply means that people are watching you and your behaviors. What is tolerated and what is not.

In addition to keeping our self-awareness in check, and modeling behaviors we want to see in others, it’s also important to recognize the power of symbolism in organizational culture. Companies that share stories, or provide opportunities for play and fun tend to have positive cultures. People can identify with stories, tradition, and history. They think, “Gosh, look at all the great things we’ve done that will keep us around into the future.” It’s being able to see that a group of people have gone through this before and pulled out of hard times.

From an appreciative inquiry standpoint, when leaders of an organization focus on what works and what’s going well, chances are they will get more of it. When you constantly focus on what’s wrong or not working, morale drops and people find themselves in a slump. Evidence based research overwhelming shows that you reap results from where you focus your energy. Talking up successes and sharing stories of how you got there can produce an incredibly positive and motivated workforce. Furthermore, humor and play are excellent elixirs to ease tension and stress. A simple smile has tremendous physiological results; endorphins are released, and it just plain makes you feel better. The most successful leaders in an organization recognize the culture of which they are a part and can adapt as necessary, and that includes knowing when to offer praise to a team, share an uplifting story, or tell a silly joke.

It can be said that culture is one of the biggest influencers on the success of a team, an organization, or even a family. Every person is responsible for what this looks like. It’s accountability to yourself in the little things you do every day, and it’s the way a company’s leaders are perceived. It can seem like something out of your control, but it isn’t. You do have the power to make a difference, just as U.S. anthropologist Margaret Mead explained almost 75 years ago when she reported, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

So think about the one little thing that you do every day that contributes to the culture around you...what one little thing can you do differently that will make your work environment a better place?

Just One
Unknown

One song can spark a moment,
One flower can wake the dream
One tree can start a forest,
One bird can herald spring.

One smile begins a friendship,
One handclasp lifts a soul.
One star can guide a ship at sea,
One word can frame the goal.

One vote can change a nation,
One sunbeam lights a room
One candle wipes out darkness,
One laugh will conquer gloom.

One step must start each journey.
One word must start each prayer.
One hope will raise our spirits,
One touch can show you care.

One voice can speak with wisdom,
One heart can know what's true,
One life can make a difference,
You see, it's up to you!